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Trust or mistrust?

Or should i say trust versus mistrust?

Trust is a relationship of reliance.
A trusted party should fulfill his/ her promises (:
Trust does not need to involve belief in the good character, vices, or morals of the other party.
Ppl engaged in a criminal activity usually trust each other to some extent.
*Also trust doesn't need to include an action tt u & the other party are mutually engaged in.
Trust is a prediction of reliance on an action, based on wat a party knows abt the other party.

Trust is....
> To let others know yr feelings, emotions n reactions, n having confidence in themselves to respect u n to not taking advantage of u.
> To share yr inner feelings & thoughts wif others; believing tt they'll not spread them indiscriminately.
> Placing confidence in others so tt they'll b supportive n reinforcing of u, even if u let down yr "strong'' mask n show yr weaknesses.
> Assuming tt others will not intentionally hurt or abuse u if u should make an error or a mistake.
> The inner sense of acceptance u hav of others wif whom u r able to share secrets wif & knowing they r safe.
> The sense tt things r fine; tt nothing can disrupt the bond between u n the others.
> ***The ability to let others into yr life so tt we can create a relationship built on an understanding of mutual respect, caring n concern to assist one another in growing n maturing independently.
> The glue or cement of relationships tt allows u to need others to fulfill yrself.
> Opening yrself up to let others in ; on yr background, yr problems, yr concerns, & yr mistakes as well, wif assurance tt they'll not wan to talk to u anymore becos of these things. (Eg. MAybe i tell him/her, he/she might think that i'm a ... ... i'm very... ...)
> & LAstly, also the act of placing yrself in the vulnerable position of relying on others to treat you in a fair,open n also in a honest way.

I dont think there's still trust between us.
We are still hiding things from each other.
Do i trust u? i doubt so.
Am i stupid to trust u in the beginning? Yes, i do think i am very.
Telling me things which u shouldn't be telling.
Yes, i know it's confused whether to be the trusted one or to be the one keeping things from this particular person as this person asks u not to tell another person.
For an example;
If A asks u to keep things from B, but then B asked u abt what A has told u... shouldn't u be the one being "trusted" by the A , tells B that u cant tell B because u promised A not to tell B?
Unless, u no longer want to trust A anymore and u think u're not trustable at all (:
Repeated episodes. You have already repeated what u're told not to do.
You know what i'm trying to convey.
You're pissed with A because A told everyone about B's secrets and yrs too.
Then have you came across this in yr mind?
That... you actually did the same thing as what A did?
Think again.
So instead of saying A is very hypocritical. Then would i say that you're also hypocritical too?
We're in the wrong of going against A because in the first place you're also the same as A. Am i right to say that?
I trusted you that's why i tell you.
A trusted you then she told you abt her secrets.
And we both trusted A that's why i told her our secrets.
But in the end, what happened?
In the beginning, A asked you about B which B tot u're trustable but u actually leaked out to A.
A actually leaked out too.
B was kept in the dark all along.
B was being protective all the way... seems to be knowing things what's going on but still was been kept things from.
B tells you about A; i bet you also tell A what i told you, right?
What's going on with the world between us?

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The quote i mentioned in my previous entry is for you and A (:
I'm glad that you actually think after reading... but i seriously think that dont always think of what ppl has to do... and what ppl should not do.
Because in my mind, i have to say this.
I'm not stupid. If you tell me about my bad pts, what i had done is wrong and what i shouldn't be doing, then i would go back home and think abt it myself.
And i seriously mean that i would go n try to change myself (:
But... this is what i think.
To me, both you and A would go back home and reflect but will still think that others should also be like this, not like that... ... (eg. the growing up problem.)
We told A to grow up, and what happened?
Instead of A thinking about growing up herself; she asks everyone to grow up.
Get the picture? "Shouldn't be everyone needs to grow up?"
It's just like when someone told u to quit smoking; you didn't even listen to heart to go n quit smoking instead, asking the other chain smokers to stop smoking.

*Is there still trust?
I dont know the answer.